This course discusses the life of the pastor, with their family, spouse, and their internal personal life.
Understanding Marriage in AP Region – A study of the nature of marriage and family, its forms, cultural and religious practices, its functions etc in the country where the student lives. The course will cover the biblical principles concerning God’s design for marriage and family; the basic needs, roles, duties of husband and wife; the place, value, discipline and instruction of children; the spiritual growth and witness of the family to Church and society. The cultural expectations will be compared and contrasted with the Biblical expectations.
Family Care– The student will study principles for maintaining strong healthy relationships with their spouse (if married) and developing healthy relations within the home and family. The student will learn how to help their spouses (or potential spouses) to implement principles, practices and methods to help families with spiritual, personal, physical, psychological and emotional problems. Emphasis will be placed on methods of healing, sustaining, guiding and reconciling those who are hurt in both local church and community. Attention will be given to the single minister and how they remain healthy and balanced as an individual.
Balance – The student will study how a pastor deals with Bi-vocational issues, relationships / friendships within the local church, time management issues, the pastor in community, the balance between building relationships with the congregation and retaining enough personal privacy to maintain family life. Potential issues to address: having a spouse on a board or in a ministry position, handling funds with integrity, the pastor who runs a business, how to deal with the ethics and appearances, relating to government positions / public servants / politics and political opinions.
Learning will center on activities and requirements with the goal of modeling healthy Christian family relationships to the church and the community.
In some areas of Asia Pacific teaching pastoral counseling is not permitted unless taught by a licensed professional with a PhD. At the same time family issues are a constant area of counseling by a pastor. This course attempts to meet the needs of a pastor for counseling resources by focusing on the person and family of the pastor and dealing with life issues they will normally deal with. In this way, the essence and tools of good pastoral counseling can be given to the student without the label of “counseling” being attached to it. At the same time, the pastor’s own life skills will be improved giving them a better chance at long term success and reducing the stress of pastoral life.
Program Outcomes from APR SOO
CP-2 Ability to communicate effectively orally with cultural relevance.
CP-5 Ability to plan, participate in, and guide others in worship.
CP-9 Ability to do basic Biblical counseling with wisdom.
CP-12 Ability to be a leader and to encourage other leaders.
CP-13 Ability to carry out and/or support Christian marriage in all aspects and to counsel others.
CH-1 Ability to take responsibility for one’s own spiritual growth with the goal of becoming like Christ.
CH-2 Ability to find, understand and utilize resources for one’s own spiritual growth in prayer, Bible study, and personal devotion.
CH-3 Ability to practice personal Christian ethics in faithful stewardship, in personal relationships, and in finances.
CH-4 Ability to teach and model sexual purity.
CH-5 Ability to demonstrate oneself consistently in public Christian ethics, in decision making, and in conducting oneself as a Christian in a pagan society.
Assessment and Evaluation
Primary Course Outcomes
Discipline – Personal and Family
The student will explain the expectations of family as it relates to ministry in their culture. CN-15 DPF
Explain how the statement of Christ – if you love me you will keep my commands – impact all other relationship. CP-1 ACC
Explain how Biblical submission is seen in the relationship between Christ and the Father and between a husband and wife. (Intro to Bible) CN-1 ACC
Discipline – Personal and Family
Demonstrate a practical application of a Biblical understanding of the importance of the spouse and family. CP-24 DPF
The student will develop a plan with a mentor that balances family and ministry expectations. CP-27 DPF
Additional Course Outcomes
Explain how the difference between Biblical understanding of forgiveness and restitution in different local cultural settings impact on the accountability of the relationship. CP-5 ACC
Explain the Biblical understanding of stewardship in relationship to accountability. CH-1 ACC
Compare and contrast the difference between accountability and coercion or manipulation. CH-2 ACC
Explain the most urgent needs and problems facing the community where the church is located. CX-4 CED
Counsel – Listen
The pastor should be able to understand the biblical foundation of counseling and to explain the importance of knowing how to counsel people using the resources of the body of Christ. CN-10 CON
Demonstrate the ability to listen to others. He/she must practice active listening skills so that he/she can grasp the core problem or issues of the person they are talking with. CP-15 CON
Demonstrate how to be prayerfully sensitive to nonverbal communication given by the person to help understand potential underlying motives and or problems. CP-17 CON
Demonstrate how to express his/her feeling appropriately in situations like accidents, tragedies, lose of a family, losing jobs, etc. (in difficult life situations) M14 CH-9 CON
Explain or demonstrate the difference between confronting and attacking. And he/she should know how to avoid attacking others in the mist of counseling, but at the same time knows how to help the person to see and to admit his/her problem, and they will be willing to move toward the direction of changing lifestyle or stopping sinning. CP-19 CON
Discipline – Personal and Family
The student (if married) will have family devotions, and plan for their family to be involved in ministry activities. CH-14 DPF
Identify the spiritual development practices that are important to you, what practices speak to you the most in your spiritual growth. CH-38 DPF
Articulate an awareness of family counseling services that are available to ministry families. CP-28 DPF
The student should introduce good holiness literature as well as classical Christian literature (audio, video, or other formats) for his/her family so that they can continuously to grow in their every day life outside of the church. CN-15 DIS
The students demonstrate how to care for the growth of the disciples in applying the Word of God in everyday life. CP-34 DIS
The student will model spiritual disciplines to their family and others including: prayer, devotional reading, fasting, solitude, public worship and others. CH-19 DIS
The student will bring grace into others’ lives through helping to meet felt needs, being an example of righteous living, be able to explain the fallen state of man, sinful condition, and his need for salvation. CP-41 EVA
Demonstrate how to help a person understand how to live in God’s will for their lives. CP-85 MIN
Explain the benefits of matching a person’s passions, strengths and personality to specific tasks / family. Strength-finders is one possible tool. CP-75 LEA
Demonstrate the ability to communicate effectively. CP-93 PRE
Demonstrate basic counseling for both pre-marital and grief. CP-99 RIT
Explain the Biblical foundations for Sabbath and how it impact pastoral family life. CN-48 SAB, CX-16 SAB
Explain potential conflicts and how to deal with conflict in a family or small group. CP-107 SMG
Outcomes by total and percentage
|1.||Small Group Reporting
At the close of each lesson, small groups will discuss questions relevant to the topic addressed. Each student will be given a chance to report back in rotation to the larger group the findings of his or her small group.
|2.||Family Life Report
List the life journey of 5 couples from the bible or church history with their person trials and failing and victory on their personal spiritual quest.
Interview a couple that has been married more than 20 years to discover what is they believe is the reason of their long lasting marriage and report the findings to the class.
Create an outing where you are able to express love to an important member of your family, your selection must be approved by your teacher. Identify biblical relational principles that where present during your event. Write and turn in a report for your teacher and discuss your experience with a small group.
|5.||Life in Balance
Develop a plan with a mentor that identifies potential conflicts between needs and ministry demands and brings balance to family and ministry expectations.